It never occured to me until a new friend was eager to know more about me posed a question that made me think twice .The question made me type the answer and before pushing the send button..i press delete then type again and again..then delete … why? i was not sure of the answer am texting back.
The question was “Describe yourself in 3 words”….Such a simple question and i could not find the correct answer within me.At that momment i realized i have never really spent time with myself to really find out who i am. For some reasons many are the times we are not sure of what we want..whom we are like..our goals…..we cannot really describe our personalities this influences our self esteem…How can we correct this problem?
It is said “Time heals all wounds”…I believe in this as things get better with time..
How often do you take your time to study your behaviour and focus on nothing else but you? By just being whom you are despite the influence from the enviroment and people sorrounding you? .Taking time to learn about your self will give clear results of whom you are..Do you like bananas or apples? Vanilla or strawberry ?Dancing or swimming..
Time is very important when it comes to making conclusions of our personalities . As you take time you are able to come up with a clear conclusion of small things that needs simple desicions but greatly describe YOU…eg.Type of food you love..or mode of dressing
2.★DO WHAT YOU LIKE….
After taking your time to define yourself by what you love ..concentrate on it and DO IT!!!!!..Dance, swim ,skate ,model , write, photography …anything you love doing creat time for it till it becomes part of you…be specific on what it is you love doing and do it give it your all.
When you create no time for what you love you demean yourself something thats so part of you..
Some few months ago ,i used to go for dancing lessons..i used to get lost in the music ,the rhythms and dance moves ..i used to forget myself..and dance as if it was my last day.However ,the momment i got lazy and stopped the lessons i forgot whom i am..because i stopped doing what makes me ..Happy ..
I insist that we learn to keep ourselves busy with what we love..
I totally agree.. Loving thyself is not a selfish move but sometimes it just have to be You! And you! Alone..When we first love ourselves ..we take care of ourselves physically ,mentally and also spiritually..When you are inlove with someone you take care of them ,understand them,litsen to them.The same way we should love ourselves.This will help us in self acceptance which in turn rises our self esteem and our view about ourselves.Take care of your self image Take care of your skin ,Your nails,work out and keep fit thats positive self love.
Lastly , BE YOU!…Dont try to change whom you are .let people experience the kind of person you are let people describe You by being you.Be honest to yourself and Do not hide a single detail about your personality.The advantage of this is that people will understand you and take you as you are.
Following my 4 steps of ways to defining ourselves…we shoul not suffer from identity crisis…anymore for we know whom we are!..